Those were the words my childhood best friend said to me as she dropped me off from a lovely afternoon meet-up in town.
She wasn’t being mean or anything, she just felt the need to tell me her concern as to why I haven’t had children yet as I’m 34 and as she sweetly put it .. don’t you want to be a young mum? Aren’t you worried about not being able to conceive? No, not really I replied. I have never tried so I’m not going to worry about something that hasn’t or has happened yet.
I know she think she is helping but honestly, not only did that ruin my whole day, she has made me feel like shit with what I view as interfering comments. It’s nobody’s fucking business and I can’t seem to get that through people’s heads.
I can never, ever tell her to shut the fuck up as she would be broken hearted at the thought of upsetting me and at the same time defensive, so I just keep it inside and try to distance myself a little until I feel bad for distancing myself.
I think some people/ friends/ family are so righteous they feel they have the right to be what is basically very rude and impolite.
This isn’t the first time nor will it be the last I imagine that I will have someone declare a caring bit of advice. Fuck off and leave me the fuck alone, it is none of your business when I decide to do anything. Just go away!